Marriage

Introduction:

This is the series of post that i am planning to write on the basics of successful Indian marriages. This series would also highlight the basic misconceptions in Indian mindset which needs to deal with the emerging reality that a bride /groom needs to face in their marriage life. The series would emphasis on and would get you a real perspective and the basic understanding of how a family would work in India.

Believe me as a groom I had a different perspective of what a marriage is and once i made some small but determined changes, my issues just got submerged into a blissful marriage life.

Objective:

The sole aim of the series of posts is to help a couple lead a peaceful and blissful life.

Though the series of posts are targeted to a newly wed or person intending to get wedded soon, this would also help already married couples with certain revelations that might transform their existing relationship;

Indian Marriages:

Indian Marriages are generally perceived to be not just a marriage of Individuals but of two families and their traditions. But in 20th century, reality is its about the two persons involved in the marriage unless you have a joint family.

Choosing your partner:

I am planning to list some of the basic guidelines which if followed in an arranged marriage would make married life much easier

• Choose your partner with common values and family system. Eg: Eating habits; Educational backgrounds, etc.
• Partners should have completely different hobbies or passions. This provides a lot of excitement in your life and variety to learn from each other and discuss.
• Basic traits of your partner should mirror you. Eg:  if you are a straight forward person who doesn’t like politics your partner should have similar traits to that. (This you can find out during your first meeting before your engagement, and plan your questions targeting your behavior you would want to find with your partner..).
• Share your expectations of your marriage life and seek to get your partner’s approval.

My next post would deal with specific Todos and Donts before and after marriage;

Hindi is not the National Language of India

There is no National Language in India. India is a  language agnostic nation This is a good learning for me as I was made to belive from my schooling that Hindi is the national Language.. which was false!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Languages_of_India

States that,

 Article 346 of the Indian Constitution recognises Hindi in Devan?gar? script as the official language of central government India. The Constitution also allows for the continuation of use of the English language for official purposes. Article 345 provides constitutional recognition to “Official languages” of the union to include any language adopted by a state legislature as the official language of that state. In effect, there are “Official Languages at the state and center level but no one “national language”.

Official language is a language standard used only in (Central) Government documents..  By no means it is an indication to external world that “India speaks Hindi” but somehow I this precisely the same happening..

I Don’t know how we forget that we are a linguistically free nation.. 

Calling Hindi as national language is like calling india a “Hindu nation”..  Both of which are false..  Wake up indians.. 

My notion is to CREATE SOME GENERAL AWARENESS amoung us.

There are 23 Official languages as like Hindi… Please dont mention again its a National Language…

Some extracts for ppl who say since most of India is speaking Hindi so we should have hindi declared as national language.. here is why we should not:

If for some reason, if we decide and say “Hinduism is the religion of >75% of India so let us have a national religion which is Hinduism. We recognize all other religions as “official religions”, The government will endeavour to ensure that all other religion’s followers are encouraged to learn Hinduism and follow along with their own religion”. What would be your reaction ?

Now substitute Religion with Language and Hinduism with Hindi and tell me why is it still acceptable ?

Just as a religions cut across languages/regions in India, languages cut across regions and religions. All the reasons that would rule out a national religion, should IMO rule out a national language.