Marriage

Introduction:

This is the series of post that i am planning to write on the basics of successful Indian marriages. This series would also highlight the basic misconceptions in Indian mindset which needs to deal with the emerging reality that a bride /groom needs to face in their marriage life. The series would emphasis on and would get you a real perspective and the basic understanding of how a family would work in India.

Believe me as a groom I had a different perspective of what a marriage is and once i made some small but determined changes, my issues just got submerged into a blissful marriage life.

Objective:

The sole aim of the series of posts is to help a couple lead a peaceful and blissful life.

Though the series of posts are targeted to a newly wed or person intending to get wedded soon, this would also help already married couples with certain revelations that might transform their existing relationship;

Indian Marriages:

Indian Marriages are generally perceived to be not just a marriage of Individuals but of two families and their traditions. But in 20th century, reality is its about the two persons involved in the marriage unless you have a joint family.

Choosing your partner:

I am planning to list some of the basic guidelines which if followed in an arranged marriage would make married life much easier

• Choose your partner with common values and family system. Eg: Eating habits; Educational backgrounds, etc.
• Partners should have completely different hobbies or passions. This provides a lot of excitement in your life and variety to learn from each other and discuss.
• Basic traits of your partner should mirror you. Eg:  if you are a straight forward person who doesn’t like politics your partner should have similar traits to that. (This you can find out during your first meeting before your engagement, and plan your questions targeting your behavior you would want to find with your partner..).
• Share your expectations of your marriage life and seek to get your partner’s approval.

My next post would deal with specific Todos and Donts before and after marriage;